Women are the backbone of the American society. As women, we are required to be the nurse, the cpa, the therapist, the lover, the teacher, the chef, and the housekeeper. We are the ones who can build and hold the families together, we heal each wound, manage all the finances, feed the little league team each weekend, cater and host the networking dinner party for our husband’s office, check the homework, while at the same time working a full time job or running our own company. Women can do so many things and do them exceptionally well. It is our destiny to accomplish great things, but I am saddened by the few who do not see the strength in being a woman.

Harriet Beecher Stowe raised seven children while supporting her family financially with her writing and assisting with the cause of the abolitionists. She opened her home to the slaves searching for freedom via the Underground Railroad. Oprah Winfrey could not afford shoes as a child and now she has a media empire and is among the richest women in the world. My own grandmother grew up in an area and time period when women rarely finished high school, but she managed to get a PhD, establish a great career in education, raise wonderful children and build substantial wealth for her family. All of us know extraordinary women, so why are there still women who choose to relinquish their potential to the opposite sex?

I met five women this past week who spend their time searching for some man to come along and provide everything that they are not willing to work for. These women spend most of their time researching successful and rich athletes, company executives, and even leaders of criminal practices. Once these women find a prospect they find what events he will be attending and make sure to be in attendance in order to meet him. They do not leave without somehow getting the man to make plans to take her on a date. I asked each one of these women how important is marriage and kids as a part of their future and every one of them said they would not consider their lives fulfilled without both.

My question is: what if they never find a man who is weak minded enough to be suckered into a life with a leech? Honestly, any man who is intelligent enough to build an empire should be intelligent enough to choose a lifelong partner that can bring something to the table other than greed. One of the women I met is 42 years old and has never been married, has no kids, and currently has no prospects who meet her criteria (i.e. rich and famous). The only positions to fill her resume are administrative assistant and receptionist and for someone who requires so much of a potential mate, I find it upsetting that she did not require the same of accomplishments of herself.

I own a business in Los Angeles and when I first started my company I worked almost every waking hour and these five women spend just as much time on their search for a rich man. However, my success is not dependent upon the slight possibility that I will find some successful man to take advantage of. All the risks I incur depend on how much effort and work I put forth. My return has proven to be much greater than theirs, considering I am going into my forth year of business. All of these women have been on their search for over six years and none of them have any solid leads toward the aisle of matrimonial wealth. I recommend a new career path for each of them.

As people I believe that we should not ask something of others that we are not willing to do ourselves. As women, we should not depend on a man to give us the life that we should have given ourselves. There is nothing wrong with wanting a successful mate, but make sure you can match his efforts. Women are remarkable so let’s all leave an impact that makes history and great change for future generations of women.