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November 27, 2023

Is online dating worth it?


A student opens Tinder in hopes of meeting some people around the area.

People nowadays think it is necessary to have a life partner with whom they can share their happiness. Times were simpler before the age of technology. when individuals generally met through traditional means, such as clubs, events or shared friends. However, with the development of dating apps, there is now a quick way to both meet new people from all over and provide the instant gratification of matching with others.
Some people today believe they can’t meet someone in their daily life and, hence, turn to the internet to find a possible companion; others use the internet to meet new people just out of pure boredom. Online dating is the modern method to locate your true match. The internet has made dating easier. You no longer have to go out to a club and spend money trying to impress someone you don’t know. For introverts, this is the ideal approach to screen for a possibility in private.
One of the most significant benefits of using a dating app is that it may lead to a genuine connection. There is that possibility of meeting someone, having a fantastic time and eventually leading to a lasting relationship. All of the terrible matches and disappointments seem worthwhile at that point.
However, most people don’t want to be stopped during their everyday activities to carry out a conversation. The most common place to meet someone would be at a bar or some kind of event, but that involves a lot of potential anxiety that dating apps eliminate.
Utilizing dating apps to meet new acquaintances and love partners has gradually become the new standard; and it also works. You can simply unmatch with someone if the conversation becomes weird or uncomfortable.
In an interview with a sophomore, Julia Olszewski (she/her), when asked whether she thinks getting on these dating apps is worth one’s time and effort, she responded:
“I would say yes and no. Of course, you will find weird guys, but it’s also nice to see that there are genuine people out there. I personally have made many friends from these apps. So, overall, it is worth it, you will have to put in the time and swipe left on the creepy guys. You can also select the BFF option in these apps if you want to make friends.”
When meeting someone, one wants to be able to see red flags before becoming too connected and entering into a long-term relationship with them. It’s easy to want to disregard warning signs if you appreciate the person’s other attributes. However, that is only postponing the inevitable. Here are some red flags to look out for when meeting someone new online.
When meeting with someone online, if they ask for money, run the other way. On a similar note, if someone expresses their sentiments of love early on and frequently, that is a tactic called ‘love-bombing’ and it should be handled with caution. People who practice love-bombing do this with the intention of manipulation further down the line.
An online dating profile is the first peek of someone’s personality, interests and what they are searching for in life. When online dating, it’s critical to get to know each other and talk to each other, both online and in person.
In an interview with a UMass Boston Junior, Talia Hammond (she/her), she advises: “firstly, make sure that you know what you are looking for, so you don’t waste your time or someone else’s. Secondly, it’s completely okay if dating apps don’t work out. Lastly, be safe when you meet someone, send your live location to your friends, tell them your plans, or always meet in a public place.”
Falling in love is lovely, but falling in love with yourself is more important than any relationship out there. Unfortunately, we are so committed to finding “the one” that we neglect to check in on what we desire in the first place. As our lives become busier and ‘me time’ falls to the bottom of the priority list, we must make an effort to bring it back to the top.

About the Contributor
Vansh Khokhani, Arts Writer