A friend of mine is talking to a guy who she knows in person, but is far more attentive to her via the Internet. He talks to her through AIM often and emails her affectionately, but acts shy in person. She isn’t sure if he likes her or not. What should she do?
Well, this is an interesting predicament. It is a question of our times: Is the online revolution ruining dating? Looking at this question, I’m starting to think yes. These days with Myspace, AIM and email people often forget about face-to-face interaction and even the phone.
I think it’s a tragedy. The Internet is nothing like real life. People over 30 can tell you this, they never had the ease of Internet to do the dirty work for them, they had to suck it up and actually ask a chick out!
There are probably a few things going on with this guy. Yes, he may be very insecure and shy. He may be flirting with lots of girls online and waiting to see which one is most interested in him. Dropping a flirty email and sending her virtual roses is a hell of a lot easier than giving her quality time, maybe he’s not too serious, or he’s taking his time. Or he could be sitting in his room over his laptop with sweaty palms wishing that she’d just do something, ask for his number – anything!
If she really likes this guy she needs to tell him, but no cop out email confessions, I mean the real thing in person. I have a solution to this problem. Disappear from online for a few days. If he’s really interested he’ll find her, he’ll worry about where she’s been, have her tell him her computer crashed, he’ll just have to call her or get together in person. Also the next time she sees him in person, don’t let him get away with a little wave, run up to him with a big smile and greet him, maybe even put her hand on his shoulder: Wow physical interaction – what a novel idea!
My friend Dave asked me the other day “Why do girls like Meatheads”?
Well, I think this is a wild generalization I don’t think that all girls like them. Myself included. Even though I personally switch men from week to week I never find myself slumming it at the Muscle Factory (not that there’s anything wrong with that).
My advice for this problem is start looking at the women you’re interested in: Are they superficial women? Are they gym fanatics? Or are meatheads just their preference? Maybe they just really love a man in a wife beater – if this the case with all the girls you like, I say “hit the gym buddy!” or check out another spectrum of women because there are plenty of women out there who are looking for a gentle man sans protein shakes.
My advice is hit up a local health food store and while the girl behind the register with the Birkenstocks is ringing in your Trail Mix strike up conversation. I’m guessing she won’t dig Meatheads. She may not even eat meat.