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Dear Jack & Jade,
A friend of mine was going out on a few Tinder dates. He really connected with two girls, who ended up hooking up with him. He wants to further his relationship with one of these girls, so he casually views their social media account. When he was checking one of the girls’ Facebook, he noticed that the second girl he hooked up with commented on a post. After he viewed more posts, he discovered that the two girls are actually cousins. They still text him, so the girls don’t know they’re talking to the same guy. What should he do because he just found out they’re related?!?!
Sincerely,
Blinded by the Booty/Desperate Friend
Dear Blinded by the Booty/Desperate Friend,
Boy, has your friend found himself in a sticky situation. Honestly, he might not have known they were related, so it’s not his fault. However, it is only right that he has a conversation with both girls. He should let them know about his discovery on Facebook and that he didn’t mean to cause chaos between the two. It will put them in an uncomfortable situation, but honesty is the best policy. You never know, your friend may still get one of the girls depending on how the cousins work things out. It will make for awkward family reunions, but it’s better to be up front instead of having everything blow up in your friend’s face. According to Attn, Tinder is an undefined limitless environment where one is going to come across various people who they have never met before. Hopefully your friend doesn’t feel too bad about this. I would advise, however, that next time your friend keeps it in his pants until he gets to know who he is going to be sexually active with.
Sincerely,
Jack & Jade
2. Dear Jack & Jade,
I don’t know what to do! I have a boyfriend but we are kinda on and off. Anyways, I have this TA that I am really into and I have been going to his office hours all the time. I know a relationship between a TA and a student is probably prohibited but I can’t help it. He’s such a sweetheart, and we’ve connected a lot.
Yours Truly,
Hungry Eyes
Dear Hungry Eyes,
Before you go roaming for a new boo, I believe you should clarify your relationship with your boyfriend. You don’t want to begin a side fling with someone else and hurt your boyfriend because then it will erase the good times you had together. If you and your boyfriend are truly over, however, it is your choice to go out with whomever you want. I don’t know if dating your TA is wise because what if it doesn’t work? You won’t be able to seek help from said TA anymore if you are struggling in your subject. Also, dating your TA may present a bad look to your fellow classmates and your professor because it is unprofessional for a student to be in a relationship with a superior. Some universities such as NYU forbid teacher-student relationships, so I would be careful and research your school policies. But I get why you would be attracted to him though—he’s intelligent, sweet, and accomplished. So if both of you are okay with it, then do your thang girl. You’re an adult who can make your own choices; just be wise, for you can’t reverse what you started.
Best Wishes,
Jack & Jade
3. Dear Jack & Jade,
I found out I’m dating my professor’s son. I have a great relationship with my boyfriend and his family. My professor seems to approve of it and treats me wonderfully when I’m over. However, I’ve noticed that since she discovered the relationship, she has been grading me harsher than my peers. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Stuck In a Rut
Dear Stuck In a Rut,
I’m glad that you and your boyfriend are in a happy relationship. I also give you props for continuing to date your professor’s son; you’re brave. It’s strange, though, that your professor treats you kindly at her home but harshly in school. I suggest that you speak with her one day after class and ask her calmly why you have been receiving such bad grades instead of outright accusing her of unfair grading. This way, she can explain if you haven’t been meeting certain criteria, which could be why you haven’t been receiving the grades you desire. However, if you feel you have been doing everything right yet she is still grading you with bias, you should take your concerns to a higher power, such as the dean. I know this may seem a bit harsh and you don’t want to create a wedge between you and your boyfriend, but your grades are an important factor in your success, and no one should get in the way of that. But hopefully your professor can help you boost your grades or give you a valid reason to why she has been grading you more harsh than a few other students. Also, make sure you have evidence that she is grading you more strictly compared to other students—just in case you need it.
Best Wishes,
Jack & Jade